Even if people ill-treat you, still be kind

April 1, 2018
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Even if people ill-treat you, still be kind

Even if people ill-treat you, still be kind

“I grew up in Learned, Mississippi. My parents were farmers and I picked cotton. I have long fingers that were good for pulling the cotton out of the bulb. It was traumatic but that was our livelihood. One-fourth of everything we raised went to the landlord. If we had four tomatoes, one went to her. She was a nice lady and respected our family. We walked over two miles to school. Our books were used textbooks that the white folks had. They were damaged and pages were torn out. Things weren’t separate but equal. It was a bad feeling, but that is the way it was. I was fortunate that mother could read and could teach me, too.

I used to do seamstress work and made baskets. I was a self-taught beautician because we had to develop a career for ourselves. People walked for miles to my parents’ home for me to press and curl their hair. Two weeks later they would walk back to do it again.

Years later, my father was blind and my mother wanted to buy land but our landlord her that if she sold her land then she would have to leave Mississippi because white folks couldn’t sell land to black folks. Our landlord’s sister-in-law heard about this and had some land and came down and sold it to me and I got to build my parents first home, a beautiful colonial front house. They are gone but I will never sell it. That house meant so much to them and added years to their loves.

You have to be yourself. No one can be you but you. You have to be true to yourself and honest and fair and no one can change you but you. When I was a baby I had polio but nothing was wrong with my brains or my hands. I went to Alcorn State University and was the first person in my family to get a college education. I paved the way for my younger siblings and they all got degrees. The white universities wouldn’t let us in. I was immediately hired to work in administration at Jackson Stage and stayed there for thirty years with honor. I never had another job, but I have been giving my time away ever since then.

I also worked with Medgar Evers doing some of his typing and office work. Medgar was in a meeting at the Masonic Temple the night he was shot. He went home as usual and the next morning he was gone. I am working now with Mrs. Evers on a special program called the A-TEAAM, a leadership development program that is mentoring young males of color. Twenty-one organizations are involved as mentors and we are creating a village for these young men. They are startled when they begin but are happy when they make it through. Many come from single parents homes and learn that other people care about them.

I try to be kind to everyone. Even if people ill-treat you, still be kind. Some of our leaders want to push people back. We aren’t going to let that happen because we have come too far to go back. We had to struggle for what we have today but I have hope that things will keep getting better. They have to.

1 comment on “Even if people ill-treat you, still be kind”

  1. This lady is beautiful inside and out. I don’t know her but I am in awe of her strength, and love for humanity, and her ability to forgive. What an inspiration.

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