I was the oldest of 12 children so I didn’t have a normal childhood

June 28, 2017
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I was the oldest of 12 children so I didn’t have a normal childhood

I was the oldest of 12 children so I didn’t have a normal childhood

“We are playing with my grandson today. My father was in federal government and we moved all over. During high school. I went to four different schools. That was hard because I am an introvert but it made me more extroverted. I was the oldest of 12 children so I didn’t have a normal childhood. I was raising kids when I was a kid and my youngest brother is just 13 years younger than me. My dad told her on their wedding night he wanted 12 children but my mother was not always happy about being pregnant. My dad was a paternalistic father and boys didn’t do women’s work so my sister and I had to do a lot around the house and my brothers didn’t. My mom had us all bathed and dressed nicely when my dad came home from work. When I was seven we moved into a house with two bathrooms. My father died when my mom was 48 and she still had 8 teenagers to raise and they weren’t all saints. Most of my brothers and sisters live in Atlanta. I am the only introvert and the odd man out. All of that made me who I am today. I got married at 19 and was married for 16 years. My dad told us he couldn’t afford to put everyone through college so we would have to do it on our own. I had enough money for about one year. I didn’t want to go back home and be with the babies and may have made a wrong decision about getting married, but my daughters came from that marriage. I found myself in my 30’s when I got divorced and met a wonderful man and we have been married for 26 years. If none of that happened, I wouldn’t be where I am today. You don’t worry about the paths you don’t take, you make your best choice and go for it and things work out. My father always encouraged me that I could do whatever I wanted to do. I started working in computer programming in the ’80s when it was taking off and moved up to senior management before I retired. Now my husband and I are enjoying life here. I have learned not to manage things too much and just let them happen.”

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